Introduction

What is true love? And how to feel it? True love can’t exist without truth, and truth can’t be shared without an open heart. An open heart loves unconditionally and accepts every outcome. To truly connect with another, we must first embrace our truth and dare to share our vulnerability, letting go of fear and judgment. If not, we end up in wounded relationship dynamics in stead of finding true love. In this blogpost I explain to you what wounded patterns can be present in both the our the feminine and the masculine. This has nothing to do with gender, so woman can also be stuck in de masculine wound and men can be stuck in the feminine wound.

The Wounded Feminine

The wounded feminine often suppresses her desires or distorts the truth to meet her needs. This can manifest in either people-pleasing or manipulation. In an effort to be liked or accepted, the feminine may ignore her true desires, sacrificing her own needs to please others. Alternatively, she might manipulate situations to get what she wants, hiding her true intentions and creating a facade to protect herself.

This behavior stems from deep-rooted fears of rejection and abandonment. By not being truthful about her desires, the wounded feminine operates from a place of insecurity, seeking validation externally rather than from within.

The Wounded Masculine

Conversely, the wounded masculine 'takes' what he desires without consent, often crossing boundaries through unhealthy domination. He imposes his will on others, believing that force and control will fulfill his needs. This can lead to actions that are aggressive or dismissive of others' feelings and boundaries.

This pattern arises from inner wounds of inadequacy and fear of vulnerability. The wounded masculine seeks power and control as a means to avoid the pain of rejection and failure.

Healing the Wounds

Both the wounded feminine and masculine operate from their inner child wounds, hindering true connection. Feelings of guilt, shame, and fear are the teachers in these dynamics, offering lessons about our wounded patterns and unhealed pains. These emotions serve as signals, guiding us towards self-awareness and healing.

The Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine

When healed, the divine masculine and feminine are open about their true desires and intentions, embracing their truth and authenticity. They accept when their desires do not align, allowing space for each other to be true to themselves. This creates a foundation of unconditional love, where both of them feel valued and respected for who they truly are.

The divine feminine communicates her desires clearly and honestly, without fear of rejection. She nurtures herself and others from a place of inner strength and compassion. The divine masculine, on the other hand, respects boundaries and seeks mutual consent, understanding the importance of partnership and equality.

Together, the divine masculine and feminine create a harmonious balance. Their relationship is built on mutual respect, trust, and the freedom to be authentic. They understand that true intimacy comes from a place of truth and openness, and they cherish the deep connection that arises from this foundation.

Conclusion

Healing our inner wounds and embracing our true selves is essential for creating meaningful and intimate connections. By recognizing and addressing the wounded patterns within us, we can transform our relationships and cultivate unconditional love. Realizing that we're in a wounded pattern is never a judgement - rather an invitation for more love. An open heart, free from fear and judgment, allows us to share our truth and connect deeply with others, paving the way for true love and fulfillment.

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